Here’s a little secret. It is normal to have insecurities in a relationship, but obsessing about them is a bad idea. So how do you deal with insecurity in a relationship? Do you confess what’s bothering you? Do you keep it to yourself? Does it affect the relationship? Well, the best thing to do is obvious. Think through and identify the problem!
To help you better, we’ve enlisted below a few types on insecurities. Here, take a look:
The beginnings are always happy and lovey-dovey! The two of you enjoy each other’s company and develop a bond. When the ‘honeymoon period’ wears off, things may (or may not) get a tad tense. There can be fights, insecurity, possessiveness, lack of appreciation or more.
Mismatched Goals And Expectations
Two individuals might not have the same goals. So, it is common to have anxious thoughts about it (when your partner doesn’t share similar ambitions). You might constantly find yourself thinking about the ‘what ifs.’ What if they don’t want kids? What if they want to live in a different city? Ugh!
Fear Of Abandonment
Now, this feeling is common. Many couples deal with the same. Why? Well, it has a lot to do with past traumas or bad experiences. For instance, if your parents have had a bad marriage, you might fear the same or if your ex abanded you in the past, you might worry the same!
Here are 5 effective steps to deal with such insecurities:
Insecurities don’t just pop out of nowhere. Sometimes, certain events, such as your partner’s past comments about you or their last relationship (anything small) can start the problem. So, the best thing to do here is to take a moment and breathe! Focus on the things under your control. And hey, if it’s not, do what’s best! Stop blaming either you (or your partner). It’s indeed an excellent way to tackle your insecurities.
Communicate Your Feelings
Hey, you. Don’t sit alone with your thoughts. Speak up and let your partner know the real problem. Have an adult conversation and address your concerns. Explain to them what your triggers are and make sure they avoid them (at all costs). Believe us when we say communication is the key. It will show you how to deal with relationship insecurity.
Focus On The Positive Aspects
We understand. This might be the last thing you want to hear, but hey, it actually works! A positive mindset turns things around! So, make a list of affirmations and read it out loud (the first thing in the morning and before going to bed). It’s a great way to make you feel better (amidst the chaos).
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
The feeling of not being enough is something every individual deals with at some point in their life. But, it’s best to not associate it with your relationship. So, keep yourself away from comparisons to ensure a smooth and happy life with your partner.
Get Professional Help
If the real problem is deeply rooted in past trauma or repressed experiences, get professional help. A support group or a therapy session is always a great idea. It will help you view things clearly and move on from your toxic life.
Insecurities can be worked through, so don’t give up on healing yourself (just yet). All you have to do is rise above all of it and voila. You’re ready to build a safe space with your partner! After all, a good relationship is built on trust! Another way to deal with it is by expressing your emotions and affections to your partner (more often).
Besides, you can take notes from Ananya on how to deal with relationship insecurity in the web series “Kehne Ko Humsafar Hain“. It stars Mona Singh as Ananya and Ronit Bose Roy as Rohit in an intriguing story of love, loyalty, infidelity, and marriage. You can stream the latest web series show on ALTT with a subscription plan and access the OTT platform anytime, anywhere. With a monthly membership starting from Rs.100* (3 months) & Rs.180* (6 months), you can watch unlimited TV shows, series and movies on the platform.